“When you are clear, consistent, firm, and unrelenting and at the same time positive, enthusiastic, caring, and thoughtful, you start to send the message to students that having high expectations is part of caring for and respecting someone.”
KEY IDEA: You must be both: caring, funny, warm, concerned, and nurturing – and also strict, by the book, relentless, and sometimes inflexible.
Effective ways to implement Warm/Strict:
· Explain to students why you’re doing what you are and how it is designed to help them. Ie. “We don’t do that in this classroom because it keeps us from making the most of our learning time.”
· Distinguish between behavior and people. Say, “Your behavior is inconsiderate,” rather than, “You are inconsiderate.”
· Demonstrate that consequences are temporary. Once you’ve given the consequence, the next job is to forgive. Get over it quickly.
· Use warm, nonverbal behavior. Arm on student’s shoulder, bend down to eye level …..
From Teach Like a Champion by Doug Lemove (Jossey Bass, 2010)